just decide!

Have you ever wondered, about how hard it can be to make a decision?

The hardest part about making a decision is overcoming the fear of making a wrong decision, so we make no decision and get stuck.  Happily, there are no wrong decisions! There may be decisions that have results that we don’t like, and we always have the power to make a new decision to create a different result, and another, and another.

I wonder about the power of making decisions quickly and keeping things flowing….

Much love,

commitment vs inertia


Have you ever wondered what it takes to change the course of life?

Inertia is the tendency of an object in motion to remain in motion, or an object at rest to remain at rest, unless acted upon by a force.  Sir Isaac Newton’s first law of motion applies not only to physical objects, but to lives as well; inertia will keep us on the same path, repeating the same patterns, until we are shifted by a greater force.

I wonder about the force of commitment to act upon the inertia of life……

Much love,

self-centeredness, the real virtue


Have you ever wondered what is so wrong with being self-centred?

The first time I heard the air-hostess instruct me, in the event of an emergency, to secure my own oxygen mask before helping others, I was horrified.  It provoked in me an involuntary response that had me mentally defying her and visualising putting my daughter’s mask on her first…..and then the penny dropped!  If I do not ensure that I am breathing first, I will not be able to help anyone, including my beloved daughter.

Throughout our developing years we are thoroughly schooled in the art of selflessness.  No more “Me, Me pick Me!!!!”, putting oneself last is seen as a virtuous trait.  Simultaneously,  we are told to grow our “self-confidence”, and always be “true to ourselves”.

Selflessness literally means “a state of being without self”. 

It equates to ignoring the self, denying the self.  It is the polar opposite of self-centred, a much maligned trait.  Yet, if one is “without self” and not “centred in self” how is it possible to be self confident or even begin to understand what it is to be true to oneself?

I wonder how much more effective you would be in the world if you were centred in your self first…….

Much love,

winter warbles

© Tania M Adams 2014

© Tania M Adams 2014

Have you ever wondered what to do when you hate winter?

Seasons are visible in all aspects of life, not only in the obvious changes in temperature, weather and foliage.  Seasons exist in our relationships, our careers, our bodies.

No matter how much we resist them, seasons persist in coming around!

Seasons are a powerful way to embrace different style of energy in our pursuit of completing goals.  Spring brings the energy of new starts, budding.  Summer bears fruit and blossoms.  Autumn is for harvesting and storing what’s needed for winter.  Winter
is about introspection, assessing and gathering energy for the Spring time.

I wonder how much power could be harnessed if we surrendered to the energy of each season as it comes around……

Much love,

do you really want to know?

Have you ever wondered what other people think of you? 

How many times have you done or not done something after concluding what other people would think or say about you if you did it?  How many times have you done it first and afterwards asked those people what they think of you, requested feedback from them?

If you really want to know what someone thinks of you, ask.  Otherwise it is all assumption, and we all know the impact of incorrect assumptions…

I wonder what would need to happen for you to stop wasting time and energy on assumptions and either ask, or let it go?    

Much love,

seeking attention

Have you ever wondered about people who are constantly looking for attention? 

They can be tiresome and draining.  The best way to deal with them is to ignore them, don’t give them the attention they want, right?  Wrong! 

All human beings, irrespective of age strive in their own way for just one thing; to be seen and heard, to be relevant.  To feel invisible is an infinitely worse punishment than attracting even the most negative kinds of attention.  

I wonder what would happen if we gave relevance to those who have dared to ask so boldly for it? 

Much love,

other people’s lives

Have you ever wondered about other people’s lives? 

It’s tempting to ponder, judge or otherwise become emotionally involved in the decisions others make, their motives, their actions. 

It’s tempting to give advice and suggestions, both solicited and unsolicited. 

It is enticing because the more time we spend in other people’s business, the less present we have to be to our own lives and all that needs to be done there. 

What I wonder is, who is in your business when you are in someone else’s?

Much love,

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selfish vs self-centred

Have you ever wondered what the difference is between selfish & self-centred?

There is confusion between selfish & self-centred. 

To be self-centred is to be, as the word describes, centred in the self; to be authentic, clear and conscious.  If you are not centred in self, then you are off-centre, unbalanced. 

Selfishness is egocentric, centred in the ego which is a valuable but small part of the whole self.   Any behaviour, thought or speaking that serves the ego is selfish, off-centre and unbalanced.  

I wonder where you are being selfish and if you dare to become self-centred? 

Much love,

just give up!

Have you ever wondered if there is a time to just give up? 

Persistence is a big buzz word these days; “keep at it, keep holding on, never give up!”  What terrible advice!  Life will not be forced into our way of doing things. 

If you are not getting the results; give up! 

Give up the attachment to the outcome, to the way it must be done, to forcing life to conform to your rules.  Instead exercise perseverance; an unfailing commitment to find a way no matter what that looks like, combined with surrender to absolute faith in the ultimate manifestation of the result. 

Where is it time for you to give up?

Much love,