where do I register for a B. Parenting?

I trained as a lawyer, worked as an accountant, held roles in senior management, ran businesses and lectured at a university. Six years ago, I became an executive and life coach. All the positions I’ve held carried responsibility. My competence (or incompetence) in the role had the potential to impact many people’s lives, finances and well-being. I have been a leader of people and a leader of businesses. People have counted on me to know what I was doing and to do it well.

In an attempt to minimise the risks associated with failing in these positions, industries deem it necessary that qualifications are obtained.

The more onerous the position the more important it is to have a specialised qualification. I have the necessary qualifications to enable me to do those jobs. Whilst a qualification of itself does not guarantee that a person will be good at their chosen profession it does provide a foundation, a basic benchmark that ensures a minimum standard for the quality of execution in the role.

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why bother?

Why bother when everyone else is carrying on regardless?

Why bother when it can be so disheartening and downright frustrating?

Why bother when nobody else does?

It’s true; it takes discipline, dedication, focus and awareness to live your chosen legacy in the face of a world that may not always make it easy. 

So why bother?

Because you must! 

You will leave behind a legacy anyway; you will change the world. It is an unavoidable consequence of living. 

I wonder; are willing to exchange your life for a legacy that is less than the best of what you could give because ‘they’ didn’t bother?

Much Love,


© A Verburg (used with permission)

Yesterday was a hot, summery sort of day that turned into a beautiful evening of clear skies and a billion stars. I even commented to a friend that the Easter weekend is going to be kind to our little holiday village with weather like this.

To my surprise, I awoke this morning to lightly falling rain and overcast skies; the kind of day the Irish refer to as a ‘soft day’. No less wonderful than yesterday, simply a complete contrast.

This is the beauty and power of the ‘in-between’ seasons; Autumn and Spring. The long weeks of fabulously hot summer days can leave us feeling a little complacent, settled into a comfort zone of predictability. Autumn’s changeability reminds us to live in the moment, be present to the now, for we do not know what tomorrow will hold. Nothing about life is ever completely predictable.

If there is something to be done, do it today! Tomorrow may very well bring sunny skies and a perfect breeze that have you aching to go and fly a kite on the beach. If today is that day go and fly the kite, for there is no guarantee the moment will present itself ever again.

I wonder, what is your heart aching for you to experience today that you keep putting off to another day…..?

Much love,

don’t push the river…

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The Kowie River; this is one of the views I am treated to daily.  It flows out into the sea through the pier in Port Alfred.  I have become familiar with the rhythms of the river, the tidal changes, its moods, the animals and birds that inhabit its waters and banks at different times of the day.  I am learning to anticipate the conditions down on the beach or the weather that is on its way, by observing the river.

Yet the one thing I have never seen is someone pushing that river down into the ocean, not once, never! 

And still somehow, after it has gone past our houses, around  the bend where I can no longer see it from where I stand, once it has gone through the town, and through the pier walls, it gets there….Sometimes faster, sometimes slower, but it always flows to the ocean, by itself.

This is how it is with life.

When we are in flow with the essence of what we are about, who we are and what we stand for, we too flow easily into the future.  We are able to fulfill our purpose; to nourish and support those who stand upon our banks or travel downstream with us.

When I am authentically in my flow, I need not get overly excited or overly fearful of the future, for I can trust that I am exactly where I am supposed to be, headed exactly where I am designed to go.  And while I may not know the exact conditions of the ocean when I arrive, it matters not, because I will have reached my true destination and fulfilled my true purpose along the way.

I wonder …………. what would need to change for you to be flowing into your future, fulfilling your purpose?

Much love,

who are you, “above all”?

He saw that Fatima’s eyes were filled with tears.  “You’re crying?”  “I’m a woman of the desert”, she said averting her face.  “But above all, I’m a woman.”

 ~ from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

None of us is only one thing at a time, yet we strive to define ourselves as this or that, to the exclusion of anything else, often becoming angry with ourselves when we find we are not what we thought we were in a given moment.  What’s more we are encouraged to abide by our culture or society’s understanding of what it means to be a woman, a man, a wife, a husband, a business person, a mother, a lover…..

Yet, our essential nature is always there and underlies everything else that we are.  It is indeed the very thing that enables us to bring our unique flavour and gifts to any role that we find ourselves in.

The deepest, most important awareness we can develop is the knowledge of our true essence.  We must learn it, know it, embrace it; both its light and shadow sides.  It is only then that we can fully infuse that essence into whomever we choose to be in each moment.  This we must do; it is what it means to be a human be-ing, to live our legacy daily.

Are you honouring your true essence; do you know who you are “above all”?

Much love,

are you one of the crAzy™ ones?

“Here’s to the Crazy Ones. The misfits. The rebels. The trouble-makers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They’re not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status-quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them. About the only thing you can’t do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world – are the ones who DO!” ~ Apple Computers ~


Have you ever wondered about the emphasis on achievement in society today?

Achievement is regarded as something to have or somewhere to get to.  We only acknowledge the achievement when we feel we have “arrived”.

I wonder about the quality of the journey in between?  What if that is the  achievement?

Much love,

just decide!

Have you ever wondered, about how hard it can be to make a decision?

The hardest part about making a decision is overcoming the fear of making a wrong decision, so we make no decision and get stuck.  Happily, there are no wrong decisions! There may be decisions that have results that we don’t like, and we always have the power to make a new decision to create a different result, and another, and another.

I wonder about the power of making decisions quickly and keeping things flowing….

Much love,